good enough momDr. Juli Slattery provides the concept of being a "good enough mome by asking the following questions in her article on the website thrivingfamily.com 

Apart from being faithful to provide for the physical needs of my children, God's definition of good enough is really quite simple and can be evaluated by asking myself two questions:

Read more: The "Good Enough" Mom

Identity formation is critical during the middle school years.  Blogger Sarah Brooks takes a closer look at how social media can affect identity development in young teens.  This is a must read for parents of preteens and teens and anyone who works closely with youth.

http://taylorandsarahbrooks.blogspot.com/2013/04/parents-word-about-instagram.html

Courtesy Dallas Tharp

 

Chalk on chalkboard Make "God sightings" a daily or weekly practice with your family.  Encourage members of your family to look for places, people, & ways that they see God at school or at work, in a store, on the street, at the park, in your home, etc.  Set apart a place in your home (perhaps a chalkboard/whiteboard as pictured) where you all can write these down throughout the week.  Choose a time each week to look at the "God sightings" from each of your lives & celebrate the ways you have seen God!  A question to help you think about this:  I wonder... where did you feel close to God today? How did you see God come close to someone else?  

Does your family need a day of rest, a family Sabbath?  Taking the time for intentional family worship and rest are vital to spiritual development for each family member, both collectively and individually.  Here are some web resources  and book suggestions that can help your family to discover the purpose, meaning, and rhythm of a Sabbath routine that will fit your family.

 

http://blog.followingtheancientpaths.org/2009/12/sabbath-family-activities/

http://www.practicingourfaith.org/keeping-sabbath-ways-practice-ideas

http://harriscreek.wordpress.com/2011/10/17/practicing-sabbath/

http://www.amazon.com/Sabbath-Suburbs-Familys-Experiment-Project/dp/0827235216

 Courtesy Thomas Lobdell

Open the page break or go to the following link to see just how much kids have changed in the last 30 years

 

Read more: Then and Now How Kids Change

Parents owe their children a story of faith. One of the common features of the scriptures that speak to parents is the idea of passing on the story of God. (Read More through the PDF download) Includes a simple questionairre to be used by families.

faithasfamily.pdf

Family Ties Website

This Canadian secular website may be a helpful tool to survey, define, and chart your own family strengths in a matter of minutes:

http://www.edu.pe.ca/southernkings/familysurvey.htm

Read more: Family Ties Website

Dosso Dossi [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons“I’m still mad but…I still love you” - After a fight, the parties involved are required to name one positive trait of the other parties or they must tell the other parties that they love them. Parents have found this to open up a channel of mercy and grace.

Courtesy Nancy Song-Stears

Creating a Strong Family: Looking at Life From a Family Strengths Perspective

This webpage speaks to four decades of research at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln, the University of Alabama-Tuscaloosa and affiliated institutions who have studied family from a strengths perspective.  This website gives an overview of a number of interesting strength propositions that can be derived from this work

 http://www.ianrpubs.unl.edu/pages/publicationD.jsp?publicationId=1103

Courtesy Lori K. Neely

One way to find and name grace in your household is to talk about the best and worst thing that happened to you today.   This allows for conversation about a fight without feeling trapped or chastised – especially if the fight was between members of the family. (courtesy of Nancy Song Stears)

The Search Institute provides a number of resources to be used by families based on their assets. Rather than focus on deficits (what is wrong or missing in in a child's or youth's life) the organization decided to focus on developmental assets, those things that help youth and children thrive.

Read more: Can You Find Your Family Assets?

 People have asked: What is a Spiritual Legacy Will? It is a written testimony bequeathing your values both personal and spiritual. It is a document written to share your: personal faith, beliefs, values, spiritual wisdom and insight, your hopes, dreams, life lessons, even the need for forgiveness, all for the benefit of your descendants. Every Spiritual Legacy Will is as unique as the person writing it. Whether simple or complex, plain or elaborate, brief or lengthy, the SLW should convey a sense of coming from your heart. See the PDF download  spiritual_legacy_tool.pdf 

Courtesy J. Paul Turner

Finding Your Faith at Home

  • State and stay with your Strengths
  • How are we doing? Where do we want to be? What can we do?